Today when I came home for lunch he was still here. We watched TV together and then I had to get back to work. When I got home he was gone with EVERYTHING that was his. I am so devastated. I can't stop crying. I don't even know anyone over here. I am all alone and I am miserable.

Lizzy, I'm sorry this happened to you! I do not like to see a man, or a women treated this way! I just want you to go about way with your eye's open!!! I pray that you are strong enough to see your relationship for what it is! I pray that you look for patterns of meaness (abuse). It is abuse to just hold a person in fear of leaving when you know that you are just killing them!!! Unless their is a missing piece of the puzzle that I do not know about, I ask you to consider if the following is true, or will transpire...

It is my belief that he definetly knew he was leaving at lunch time. For him to sit there, and watch TV with you, and then pack, and leave after you left. Everything was deliberate, and was planned out to have this effect on you. If this were not true, then why would he sit, and watch TV with you, as if nothing was going to happen? He could have went to another room, or said he wanted to go for a walk, or been gone before you came home. Instead he chose to sit with you, as if nothing was going to happen, wait for you to leave, pack his stuff, and be gone!!! This is a sign of a coward!!! This is part of the control that he executes over you. He'll be calling you before long. You wait, and see. As he will want to hear how much you love him. How much you will bend over backwards to make him happy. He won't stop all contact, as he will want you to beg him to come back. etc. etc. etc. If none of what i'm telling you is true, then tell me what you did; that is so terrible, which forced him to leave you?!!! I do not believe that you did something! I just want you to think about what i've said!!!

Kweig,

I have sent you a message explaining certain things. Please read it and help me.

Heavenly Father we come to Praise You Lord and we lift Lizzy and he husband up to You Lord we ask that You PLACE Your MIGHTY Hand on both of them. We Thank You for this Lord. In Jesus Name we Pray Amen and Amen

Thank you so much everyone for all your prayers. He hasn't called me since I called him last, which was yesterday around 4 or 5 in the evening. I miss him so much. I woke up at least 3 or 4 times in the middle of the night. This is driving me insane. The only thing that's helping me right now is talking to all of you, my brothers and sisters, talking to God, and to my mother. Please keep praying for us.

Heavenly Father, Watch over Lizzy. Let her know that she can always come here for prayer. Let her know that we care about what is happening in her life! I pray that Alex begins to have a change of heart. I pray this in the name of Jesus, Almen!!!

Thank you so much for all your prayers. He hasn't called me as yet, but this afternoon I checked my e-mail and I had a long letter from him saying how much he misses me and how bad he wants to run back home and ask me for forgiveness for leaving me. But then he says he thinks its for the best. He says he feels sick to his stomach without me to the point he is not even interested in taking a shower. He says his mother told him that "Things happen in life, and you have to work through it. If you miss her so much you should go back." I didn't respond to him. I don't know what to say. I don't know what to do. He says that he loves me more than life itself. I don't see why he doesn't come home then. I don't know what to say or do. My mother said I should just stay silent for a while.

Praise the Lord for this letter from your husband! I pray that the Lord leads you in what to say, and do! I guess if it were me, I would say that I missed him to, but did not want to go back to living the way that you were, as it was too painful. I would ask him what he is willing to change to make this work, and what he's not willing to change! Tell him that you want him to be honest, and to take this seriously, as if he doesn't you guys won't make it! You both need to be honest in the way of, putting it all out there, even if it means hurting the other, in order to work it out.

Also, I agree with Alex about him saying that you both need to be apart for awhile, at least until you talk about the problems, and come to some sort of an agreement as to how you are going to act, and react to things! You both need to really miss each other, and miss each other so much that you both are open to doing what you need to do to make this marriage work! There needs to be some ground rules layed so that you don't fall back into the same old traps again!!! Instead of being depressed that you are apart for awhile, why don't you be glad that you both are finally going to get this on track!!!

As far as the ex-girlfriend being at his mother's home. I do not think that was right of his mother to do this, and it is puzzling that she's now telling her son to come back to you? I don't get this? Also, I just want to say this about Alex, and his ex-girlfriend. I do not think he even wants her, as if he did, I think that he would not be writing to you! Consider if this was just unnecessary jealousy on your part? You need to address this, or it will resurface not just with the ex-girlfriend, but with other girls! Take this time apart to realize that there must be something between you, and Alex, or he would've ended all contact!

Finally, look at yourself to see why you are jealous? Is it low self esteem etc. You need to fix this, or it will destroy any love that he has for you!!! When I got older I learned that it didn't really matter how pretty another girl was that I could hold my own. Not because I am just this knock-out, but because as one gets older, and wiser they realize that just being pretty does not cut it. The character is so much more important! If a guy takes off with a prettier women, because she is prettier: Then why would you want him anyway? He is making stupid decisions, and does not have a clue what it means to truly love, and be happy anyway!!!

I pray that you just consider the things that i've said to you. See if you think it would help you both! I don't know your situation well, and this is just something to think about!!! I pray that you listen to the Lord, and let him guide you!!!

Heavenly Father we come and Thank YOU Lord for EVERYTHING. Lord we lift Lizzy up to You and ask that You PLEASE just guide her Lord. She sees that her husband loves her Lord show her what to Pray and how to make this marriage work FOR YOU Lord. We know that we can come and Stand in the Gap and Pray for Alex Lord but Lizzy has more power to Pray for him because in Your eyes they are One and she needs to just Pray and put her Faith in You. Lord we ask that You help them deal with ALL that is going on. Help Alex with the problems he has and help Lizzy with her issues. Lord we Give YOU the Praise for this in Jesus Name we Pray Amen and Amen
~Lizzy, I just wanted to tell you to check out the book The Power of a Praying Wife it is wonderful and very helpful. We love you.