A Prayer Thread For Marriages!!!

odiear3rd · #1 (**permalink**) 04-28-2008, 09:12 PM

Lets create a new thread for marriages!! God bless you all. ODIE

kweig · #2 (**permalink**) 04-29-2008, 12:09 AM

Lord, let us all remember that each day of our lives is precious. That if we use a day foolishly, that we cannot redo it, or get it back. It is forever gone. Let each marriage began to live like there will be no tomorrow, and hold their spouse up with high acclaim. Let us all quit sweating the small stuff, and begin to view their marriages in a different light! For this I do pray, and in the Holy Name of our Heavenly Father Jesus, Amen!!!

ibelieve_4ever · #3 (**permalink**) 04-29-2008, 02:34 PM

Dear Heavenly Father we come to say we LOVE You and we Thank You for ALL that You are doing and are working on doing Lord we just cant say enough how MUCH WE LOVE YOU!!! Lord we ask that You PLEASE be with ALL that Marriages that are having PROBLEMS Lord work Your MIGHTY Hand in them Lord. We Pray that Hedge Of Thorns around ALL the Prodigal Spouses Lord Men and Women. Lord You say that if we Speak Your Word it WILL NOT RETURN EMPTY. Lord we know that YOU are the ONLY ONE that can work on the prodigals and we are TRUSTING IN YOU!!! WE BELIEVE and KNOW in our HEARTS that you are working and right now we are going on Faith and not sight but before LONG we will SEE with our eyes what you are doing. Lord we are CLAIMING ALL THIS IN JESUS NAME!!! Our Marriages are COVERED in the Blood of Jesus and our spouses WILL be home in JESUS NAME Amen and Amen

kweig · #4 (**permalink**) 04-29-2008, 07:39 PM

Heavenly Father I lift up the hurting marriages to you. I pray for your peace, your love, and your will to inhabit each marriage. Be their light in their time of darkness. Thank you for all that your doing in each one of our lives. We praise you, and lift your name on high. I ask this in the name of Jesus, Amen!!!

ryd40@aol.com · #5 (**permalink**) 04-29-2008, 09:16 PM

Dear Heavenly Father, Please be with all marriages. For the marriages that are not having trouble, guide them to you and help them to be a positive testimony for those that are having problems. FOr the marriages that are having trouble, please place your hand of healing on their hearts that they may have a desire to put you first in their marriages so they can grow closer to each other rather than apart. Life them up to you for answers to their problems. For this we pray in Jesus name. AMEN

brokenheart · #6 (**permalink**) 04-30-2008, 05:20 AM

God I need your help. My wife is trying to end our marriage. Only you can help. Please soften her heart and help her to forgive me. You have made me a new person and she is sceptical. Thankyou for our children (ages 3,4, and 9) . Please protect them from this , and heal our relationship. ** please pray for my wife Sam. I think mid-life , or early menopause. there is no infidelity. Sam has build up anger and resentment over me treating her like an object, and being distant to our children. I am going to counseling, she refuses.

kweig · #7 (**permalink**) 04-30-2008, 07:38 AM

Dear Broken hearted, I commend you for taking this first step in trying to better yourself as a husband. Admitting that you have a problem, is the first step in making the necessary changes to having a happy healthy marriage.

***I would like to give you some things to think about. I do not know your whole situation, and therefore you may want to talk to your councelor about this. Let your words, and actions speak voumes to your wife. Consciencely do things to let her know that you are in the process of making permanent changes. Do this by pointing out to her the things you are working on. Take every opportunity to say i'm doing this, or that!

***If your wife does decide to give your marriage another try, you cannot afford to revert back to old habits. Therefore, I would really take a look at what is causing you to act the way you do, instead of just focusing on trying to stop acting the way you have!

***Many times there are underlying issues which cause us to act in a way that is inappropriate. A person who is acting inappropriately may be able to make short term changes, if they "primarily" focus on "not" doing some of the behaviors which cause harm to their marriage. But, as soon as the threat to end the marriage seems to end, then they revert back to their old habits! It usually happens gradually, as they test the waters to see what they can get away with! Sometimes they learn to control the habits, without dealing with the underlying issues which cause them to act this way. If this is the case it is really a lot of work on their part, as they are not dealing with the underlying issue that causes them to do what they do!

***You need to figure out what is causing you to treat your wife the way you do. Did one your parent's do similiar things, or do you have low self esteem etc.? If you can pin point this, then you can begin to fix what you need to fix to get rid of this problem once, and for all!

***As far as not helping with your children... Your wife is upset, as she has had to shoulder the care of your children, while being treated badly. I would like you to think of a plan to alleviate some of the pressure she has. Begin to take an active role in their lives, and tell your wife... I am listening to you, and i'm taking action.

***Your wife may seem to be "more upset" for awhile, after you start making changes. As she will begin to think about things like... Why couldn't he just do this from the beginning? It will (at first) open all the wounds, but if you guys work through this, it will begin to completely heal. Think of it like this... Sometimes you have to open up a sore, and get the puss out, before the wound will heal!

***Heavenly Father I pray for this couple who has troubles. Lord, you know right where they are in this marriage. I pray that this husband really takes an in depth look into to himself to figure out why things are happening the way they do! I pray that you begin to draw him closer to you. I pray that he see's that the closer that he gets to you, the more everything falls into place in his life. I pray that you soften this wife's heart, to see that her husband is serious about fixing the problems through counciling. Last, but not least I pray for these children. I pray that they do not pick up any bad habits from their parent's. I pray that they learn from this that when things go wrong in a marriage, that you do whatever it takes to work it out! I pray this in the name of Jesus, Amen!!!

kweig · #8 (**permalink**) 04-30-2008, 11:03 AM

Dear Broken Hearted, In your response to me, you said something that caught my attention: You stated that the stakes are high, and that you are not strong enough for the battle for your marriage, and the salvation of your immediate family, and extended family. While this may be true when you are acting alone, you are no longer acting alone. You are now one of the "Chosen Few" as you are saved, and washed in the blood of Jesus! I ask you to quit relying on yourself to take care of all these problems you face. Pray for strength from your Heavenly Father. The "Battle" is not yours, but is his. You will be amazed of what you can do with God on your side, and this includes the "strength" that you have eluded to!!!

***I would like to comment about some of the things that you wrote in your response to me. Again, these are things to think about, and run by your councelor. I do not know the full circumstances, and I would hate to cause more problems than good!!!

***I would like to comment on what you had said about looking at the "Deeper Issues". This is good that you are doing this. Keep it in your head that you need to never forget this, as if you are not careful you will begin to creep back into your old habits which are "Destructive to you, and your family".

***As far as Sam saying it's over, and going out etc.: I would say that she is running. Many times the easiest thing to do is to just give up, and go do what you want that makes you feel good. It is harder to stick it out, and work through it. Right now she has chosen the easier road! I have to tell you that i've been right where you are today. I personally quit pressuring him to do anything that I wanted him to. I had to back off with the pressure, and just let the cards fall where they may. I only contacted him once, and asked that he put off the Divorce, and think about what he was doing. I was waiting on the Divorce papers as I had given up on our marriage. This was when things changed for me. *It is very hard to do this, but pressuring her about the marriage, and talking to her about her wherabouts seems to be just pushing her farther away. Maybe if you backed off, and quit calling her altogether (except to say: please put of the divorce off, and think about things) will cause her to wonder what you are up to?

***As far as the menopause thing, who knows if she is experiencing menopause? Many times people are running from things in which they are unhappy about. Maybe they feel that they have missed out on something. Maybe it's easier to find a new honey moon, then it is to work on the marriage problems they have. Who knows what your wife is thinking, or doing. I would suggest You stay away from talking to anyone who could possibly relay this information to Sam. (Where you are saying that her menopause is the cause for her leaving.) As this can be taken by her, to mean that you see this as being her fault, and you are not taking responsibility for what you contributed to these marriage problems! Also, when you bring up menopause to the people that Sam cares about... It may seen as... You are making her look bad, by putting the blame on her, to her family, or friends. This could cause harm to you, and your marriage.This It could also backfire, and push her farther away from you. Even if this were some truth to this, is this worth your marrige? Sometimes you have to pick your battles, but I think if this were me, I would stay away from this one!!!

***As far as Sam getting mad when you talk about positive changes that your making. Yes, she probably is as you are making her to feel guilty, as you are now working on the marriage, and she is not! She is very mixed up right now. *I personally had to just leave my husband alone to give him time to think about what he was doing. Nothing I said made anything any better. As a matter of fact, it just made it worse. It was his choice for him to leave, and it was going to have to be his choice for him to come home! If he was to come back as a result of the pressure I put on him, it would not work!!!

***As to the fact that you love your wife: I personally believe you do. It shows in your writings to me. Now, you have to convince your wife of this fact. Again, I had to lay low, and let him make his decision.

***I want to say in closing, Thank you for being in Law Enforcement, and protecting the citizens of our Great Nation. I don't think that you guys get enough credit for laying it all on the line for us Citizens.

***Heavenly Father I pray that somehow something breaks the ice for this couple. I pray that you lead this husband, and Father to the coucelor who can best help him, and his marriage. I pray for Sam, as she is out their trying to find herself. I pray for your will in their lives. I pray for Salvation of this entire family. I place all of them in your hands, and ask you to be their words, and actions. I pray this in your Holy Name Jesus, Amen, and Amen!!!

brokenheart · #9 (**permalink**) 05-01-2008, 05:10 AM

Kweig,

Thank-you for alowing God to speak through you. Yesterday I called to see if I could come by to see the kids. Sam was at the doctors and and when I asked if she was alright she said " DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT" I called the house and got a hold of a family member who was watching the kids. I was told that Sam was at the hospital getting a cat scan. I went home to be with my children. Later Sam was admitted for "observation" . Sam has told her family to not tell me details, but to say that she is ok. Sam is still angry and unwilling to talk with me. I am deeply troubled and trying to leave things at the feet of my savior. Please continue to pray for us. For Sam to be healed in body, heart , mind and spirit. That she would allow Forgiveness in her heart and accept Jesus as her savior.

thank-you

ibelieve_4ever · #10 (**permalink**) 05-01-2008, 11:48 AM

Dear Heavenly Father we come and PRAISE You Lord we Love You and Thank You for EVERYTHING. Lord we are coming and asking You to PLEASE be with ALL the Marriages Lord those in trouble and Lord Bless Those that are not in Trouble. Lord we BELIEVE that You are going to Work in ALL our Marriages and we just keep our Trust in You. Lord Bless those that are having Faith problems Lord we ask that you just PUT Your MIGHTY hand on them. Lord we Love and Praise You We PUT our Faith and TRUST in YOU 1000000000000000000% And we know that You will do ALL things for Your Will and Your Goodness. In Jesus Name We Pray Amen and Amen