Heavenly Father we lift up Mary's daughter, and baby to you. Be with them in all things. Open their eyes to see clearly the best way to handle this situation. Help them to be able to see both sides, and all involved. Let their be a peaceful resolution to this situation. Help the boyfriend's family be open to a good result for everyone. Let them come together for this child, and give it the love it will need. Let peace come to all involved. Let your will be done! ***I wanted to tell you that I too was involved in a custody dispute in 1998. My children were 1, and 3. Since that time there have been numerous court proceedings; everything from custodial interferance, to child support, to request to relocate. I got custody of my children, but having said that: "I think if I had to do it over again I would have done more to work it out between us, rather than going to court". Since the custody hearing, my ex has done everything he can to punish me for loosing custody. This has caused more stressor's than any good which came from being awarded cusotdy. I know that sometimes it can be difficult, as at a minimum both parties want fairness. Sometimes one party is selfish, and takes more than they give. I know that your child is a baby, and both probably want to protect it, and their relationship. Although the Court can settle this one situation now, but you may want to ask yourself, is this really the best avenue? As it will probably just lead to more court hearings. Also, your whole personal life is paraded for all to see, as court records are a matter of public record. Keep in mind that what may seem black, and white to you, can be twisted, and turned around in court to be your fault. For ex: Money owed in a child support hearing; the other party can say that you got them fired from several jobs. I can go on, and on about how things can be twisted. Also, it sounds like the other family can be good candidate to do this! Also, I am owed $46,000.00 in child sup.: I think that if I had not gone to court for custody I would have had a better chance at collecting it. As their Father would have been more willing to pay it! There are many other examples of what my ex did in which I felt (at the time) made it necessary to go to court. Like calling C.P.S. because I had filed to enforce the chid sup. But, again if I had it to do over again, I would have settled out of court. My boys are 14, and 17, and he still to this day tries to get even with me, as he is mad. Even if you have to let him get some of the upper hand right now, or forever (as a matter of fact) as long as you don't have to give up custody, I would give him more than you get; Just to resolve this. Maybe at some point he will began to work with you, instead of against you. Maybe he will never work with you, but even if that happens: I can almost 100% guaratee you that the situation will be better, to settle out of court, than to fight in court. In closing, Be aware that these lawyers are in the business of making money off you. I have even seen them almost intentionally say/write something to the opposing attorney just to keep things going, and cause you to spend more money because you are going back, and forth with accusations. Remember this, if the other party makes an accusation, it is up to them to prove it, not you. If you try to prove it that you are innocent too much (try too hard) you appear guilty in the eye's of a Custody Evaluator, and the Courts. You also spend a lot of $ doing it. Mine cost me $36,000.00. (Not incl. the custody evaluators fee's.) ***I sincerely pray that the Lord guides you. I pray that the Lord's will be done.  | 
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