I hear what you are saying and I know this is a difficult "topic" to talk about. Life is full of pressure and and temptations. There is so many things that we face, and that we must trust in God, to do the right things. There is much more things to life, that make you feel good, and one day, when you are married, and have that true love in your life, you will receive a priceless gift. Love is a strong emotion and can drive us all crazy sometimes. All the feelings and emotions that build inside from it, is unexplainable. Think of the love you feel, when you do something nice for someone. I believe that God himself, has planned this "intervention" , in your life, to show you things you may not be seeing right now. New doors will be opened for you, and when that time of marriage be blessed upon you, you will know that you made the right decision. God and your heart, is telling you to do this. You were strong enough to make that decision, and I have so much respect for you. You are on the right path, don't get lost, as you will find your way to a beautiful place, and future. I will be praying for you, as I send my blessings your way.

God Bless-

-Jess

Hey Tara,

Congratulations on your choice. I have been living with someone I met in college for 7 years. We started going to church last year and have recently made similar dcecisions. We have stopped being physically intimate and have just started sleeping in separate rooms as well. We are both seeking God's will for our lives and hoping to be able to marry soon. You're not alone. It is hard, but I can't wait to receive his blessings when that day finally comes for us to be united according to his plan.

Friends in Christ,

Randy

Amen Randy! I agree with your words, and I also congratulate Tara for her strength in making the right decision. You won't regret it. God is with you. God Bless you both-

-Jess

Thank you Randy & Jess. It helps to have support and be able to talk about it. Most people just think it is crazy. I appreciate your feed back.

God Bless,
Tara

HI Tara Ann, I have recently been married. My husband and I did live together prior to the wedding, but stopped being intimate 6months before the wedding and also went through married prep classes with our priest. To be honest I am very happy that we stopped being intimate. It just made me feel more as if God was really apart of our lives and that getting to know one another was the most important thing. My prayers go out to you and please know that the decision you made may have been difficult, but it will be worth it in the long run.

I agree that being celibacy is hard, but nothing is too hard for God with him all things are possible so just pray and ask for strength to endure until it's time for marriage.

Thank you Ambie & Hbaker, I appreciate the words of encouragement. I will continue to pray for strengh and guidance.

God Bless you for taking a stand to be celibate. God will bless you your decision. Just remember that you are in control of your life and life is not in control of you. I will keep you in my prayers that God will keep a Protective on you. It takes a lot of BOLDNESS to post the stand you have taken. God Bless you. ODIE

Dear Tara Ann, SINCE you have made a vow, i would encourage you to give your greatest effort in trying to keep it. First and foremost by asking God to help you.

And regarding the loophole, God created a woman to be loved most intimately by her husband only (and vice versa). And in ancient biblical Israel if a man seduces a virgin and takes her sexually, he was forced to marry her...

I think you need to consider this matter prayerfully and hear God's call clearly. I think the best thing to do at the moment is to give this relationship over to God, and turn your boyfriend over to Him. We must be careful not to idolize our loved ones, because it will destroy them. We must come to terms with the fact that we could loose our loved ones anytime (either to death, to adultery, or by abandonement, etc), because God CAN allow this. I think the first step is letting go of your boyfriend. Even i let go of my husband (or i did to the best of my knowledge), and this enables me to love him more truly, because then i love him because i love him and not for any other reason.

And as a side comment, it is best not to make promises to God which you are not sure you can keep 100%. If you want to try and do something to obey, just try and do it (of course with prayer and through God's grace), and if you are commited, commit it to yourself, but i personally find it not good to make promises unless i know 100% i can keep it.

hopefully this came out ok and it gives some ideas.... i am writing in a hurry.

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