Celibacy is not easy - Page 2

ZephThree17 · #11 (**permalink**) 01-11-2008, 03:24 PM

"I am to my Beloved as my Beloved is to me" ~)~

He pours out His mercy
-all around me
He lavishes me with His love
-abundantly
He overwhelms me with His grace
–unconditional
I can never out give my Lord.

He is magnificent,
He is wonderful
He is compassionate,
He is kind
He is creator,
He is counselor
I am His and He is mine

" My beloved is mine, and I am his."
Song of Solomon 2:16a

"Perfect Love Casts Out Fear" No one need ever be afraid to make a vow to our LORD and Savior Jesus the Christ. Never, no not ever! YHWH already knows our frame, and though we might be tempted to slip, He catches us before we fall, He is always Faithful! And the vows we make to Him are made in faith, for "Without faith it is impossible to please God." (Hebrews 11:6) and "Whatever is not of faith is sin." (Romans 14:23)
You, Tara Ann, are a blessing to your Beloved LORD! And others will be encouraged, and strengthened through your commitment and love for our Beloved LORD!

Go and read Psalm 45:

"....the King's daughters are among thy honorable, noble women..."

The King's daughters are all glorious within, Praise the LORD!

and

HALLELUJAH!!!

christain737 · #12 (**permalink**) 01-14-2008, 05:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Tara_Ann

About six months ago I took a vow of celibacy and asked my boyfriend to move out. We had been living together for almost 5 years. I came to know Christ about a year or so after we had been living together. I knew it was wrong to live together and act as a married couple if we were not. It took a lot of strength and faith to ask him to leave and to cut off a physical relationship after so long. We are still together but in a different way now. I know it was the right thing to do but I am scared of loosing him also. I know we cannot be married for at least 3 to 5 years because of some situations in our lives we need to clear up. I need God to give me strength; the celibate life is not as easy as I imagined to be honest with you. I don’t want to disappoint God but at the same time I am looking for loopholes which I know is wrong. I keep trying to figure out a way to make it ok. I have not broken my vow but I am nervous that I may. I hope this is not inappropriate; I really need some feed back on this. It is a hard topic to discuss.

You have been obedient to the Lord in this monumental decision, Friend. Your decision speaks volumes about your love for the Lord and that you honour Him, too. Celibacy is an extremely HIGH calling and very few people can pull it off. It says, I will not compromise my walk with my Lord and Saviour and demean myself by making my body available outside the bonds of marriage. Most people engage in illicit affairs and premarital intercourse because they DON'T respect, love or honour GOD. Their comfort and worldly desires have greater priority to them than the Lord's Commandments. He commands, Be 'holy' for I am holy." I have deep respect for you and hope that others will follow suit in your example. ALways remember, "Seek ye FIRST the Kingdom of GOD and AL these things shall be added unto you. " Father GOD, in Jesus name, please continue to grant Your wisdom, strength and blessings to this Child of GOD for honouring and glorifying You. Bless her for her obedience and faithfulness to You. Let her light shine for other s to see and follow suit. We ask in the Mighty name of Jesus. Amen!

#13 (**permalink**) 01-16-2008, 06:14 PM

Right now, my "boyfriend" and I have decided to take a step back, and re-evaluate things. We too have been intimate, and made the decision to stop doing that. And, it really has been hard. I was practically living with him, and I've given him his key back, and I don't stay there anymore. I do have a question though. I don't know if this is the devil or what, but I mean, we had the agreement to not be intimate with each other anymore, but we don't do ANYTHING. Like, he doesn't even hug me. And, I feel like there is nothing wrong with that. Its like, if its not all the way, then its nothing at all. I wish to show him physical affection, but, within whats right. And I honestly dont think that a hug, or a kiss is a bad thing. Especially when, we know what will not be happening. Its weird....like, I can't tell if he wants to be my "good buddy" or my boyfriend. Is that bad????

#14 (**permalink**) 01-17-2008, 08:23 AM

I just did the same thing six months ago! It was easier for me because my boyfreind moved thousands of miles away and we broke up. But it has really been a blessing and pray it will be a blessing for you as well. God has really revealed some things to me about sex and men and he has never been able to before because I was so deep in sin. I'm sure he will do the same for you and this will strenghthen your relationship with God(1st) and then the one with you boyfriend(2nd). Also you have to stay in the word of the lord in order to fight those urges from you flesh and your ego and don't forget prayer so that God can give you strength.

Be Blessed
Tiffany

#15 (**permalink**) 01-26-2008, 05:56 PM

I was in a similar situation. I was intimate with my boyfriend. I kept telling myself I wouldn't do it again. But everytime I saw him he seduced me. I knew it was wrong, but he didn't care. I finally had to choose either him or CHRIST. I chose CHRIST & never regretted it. I have no contact with him anymore. It's been 3 years. Occasionally the devil tempts me with thoughts, but I know serving GOD is the best way.

invisiblewings · #16 (**permalink**) 05-04-2008, 07:37 PM

If he leaves you because you love God, then it is better that you know now instead of 20 years from now. And if he does leave, then God will surely bless you with the right man who will know enough to love you BECAUSE you love God more than you love him. Don't worry if you lose him. I just recently lost a man who was promising marriage but I never had sex with him, so after 6 months, he quit talking marriage and quit talking to me. I am GLAD we didn't have sex. It made the break up easier.

A book called "Seductions Exposed" was very enlightening for me. Of all the sins we commit, the sexual sin is the only one where we become "one" with somebody. The book suggests that if a person has spirits on/in them, then the person who has sex with them is vulnerable to those spiritual influences.

I pray that you can fully give your love to Jesus, to whom we are the bride. And I pray that God either changes this man's heart, or that HE sends you the right man.

amen

christain737 · #17 (**permalink**) 05-05-2008, 04:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Unregistered

Right now, my "boyfriend" and I have decided to take a step back, and re-evaluate things. We too have been intimate, and made the decision to stop doing that. And, it really has been hard. I was practically living with him, and I've given him his key back, and I don't stay there anymore. I do have a question though. I don't know if this is the devil or what, but I mean, we had the agreement to not be intimate with each other anymore, but we don't do ANYTHING. Like, he doesn't even hug me. And, I feel like there is nothing wrong with that. Its like, if its not all the way, then its nothing at all. I wish to show him physical affection, but, within whats right. And I honestly dont think that a hug, or a kiss is a bad thing. Especially when, we know what will not be happening. Its weird....like, I can't tell if he wants to be my "good buddy" or my boyfriend. Is that bad????

Your "REAL" question is: "What on earth is he thinking by acting like this? Is he trying to punish me becaue I don't want to give my body to someone who I have no clue will be my husband in the future or not?" You see, men need to have sex. Women need intimacy, love, commitment. You tell me if he is a little upset. But, that's where his respect for you should have taken over. I cannot tell you how much respect I have for women like you who put their foot down because they have respect for themselves and they know they honour GOD in doing so. The bible tells us very clearly that you are about to be very blessed for choosing righteousness over the fleeting things of this world. Remember: "What will a man profit if he gains the whole world and loses his soul?"

christain737 · #18 (**permalink**) 05-05-2008, 04:12 PM

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Originally Posted by invisiblewings

If he leaves you because you love God, then it is better that you know now instead of 20 years from now. And if he does leave, then God will surely bless you with the right man who will know enough to love you BECAUSE you love God more than you love him. Don't worry if you lose him. I just recently lost a man who was promising marriage but I never had sex with him, so after 6 months, he quit talking marriage and quit talking to me. I am GLAD we didn't have sex. It made the break up easier. A book called "Seductions Exposed" was very enlightening for me. Of all the sins we commit, the sexual sin is the only one where we become "one" with somebody. The book suggests that if a person has spirits on/in them, then the person who has sex with them is vulnerable to those spiritual influences. I pray that you can fully give your love to Jesus, to whom we are the bride. And I pray that God either changes this man's heart, or that HE sends you the right man. amen

I will find that book! It sounds intriguing!

#19 (**permalink**) 07-25-2008, 11:36 PM

I, alongside many, many women I assume have struggled with such intense issues. It is one of the hardest things to control, emotionally even moreso than physically I would say. You should be sure that God loves you, that you are a pure daughter in Christ and that he has a brilliant, special plan for you. Do not go back on your vow, God will reward you for it and has many great things planned for you if you submit to him. A really hard question I guess you have to ask yourself is, does God want me to still be in this relationship? Is it his will? I suggest you spend time in his word and his presence contenplating it. The Bible tells us that the devil installs fear in us to prevent us from recieving all God has to offer. So if you are fearful of your boyfreind breaking up with you out of the fear of being alone, this is the devil talking.

I'm sorry if that all sounds a bit weird, keep walking in Christ's light because he has so many good things to give you.

I wanted to say that I've read a brilliant book on sex by a christian author Paula Rinehart - 'Sex and the Soul of a Woman', who compassionately explores womens struggles with intimacy in great depth, giving great practical advice of how the holy spirit can lift us out of the crippling emotional bondage created by sexual intimacy outside of marriage.