How can mere words tell you about someone who has captured your soul, has gotten into your heart and lit it on fire. How can you describe love? It’s an enigma, a thing that either is or isn’t. You cannot make someone love you; they either do or they don’t. You cannot force yourself to love someone if it just isn’t in you. You can’t. Thus, how can I possibly tell you about this guy for you to pray for him and me? But, I will try anyway, because I need to.

I know this sounds like a petty prayer request, but heart is heavy and I’m feeling so depressed and down. It’s simple really. Since December last year, I started personal fitness training with a guy who works at my gym. He’s very young, but we hit it off big-time emotionally. He developed a crush on me, and I like him a lot. But, we flirted so much during our workouts, that I felt I was not behaving appropriately. So, I ended our training together, and we now see one another only at the gym and only a couple of days a week. We have not dated, and he has not asked me out (yet).

And, that’s the crux of the matter. I know he cares, and I know he has deep feelings for me, as I do for him. Whenever I do go to the gym lately, he seems to come over to where I am and at least say hi, even though he may be training a client. A couple of times, he even left his client to come talk with me. We have overcome so much in our relationship, and now for the last week or so we see one another at the gym and say hi. But, we may need a miracle to come together. I’m old fashioned and don’t believe that a girl should pursue a guy, and he’s young and who knows what the guy is going through.

So, I’m asking for prayer that he and I can communicate outside the gym and find a relationship with one another to enjoy, because life is too short. I ask that God will help both of us to reach out to one another, and soon, very, very soon, for us to be together. After all, I will never know if this guy is the one for me unless we can get together and spend some time with one another privately.

Thanks so much.

From,

I Believe In Miracles (Kim)

And, it looks as if I’ll need a big miracle here!!!!

Dear Friend, i have prayed that the Lord would draw you onto Himself and that you would come to know Him as one person can deeply know another.

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Just reading your post, I can tell you that you are in "lust". You both are looking at the outside "physical" characteristics of each other. You are not IN love. There is far, far more to love than what's written here. Go to Proverbs 31 and read about what a "wife" should possess. I don't believe enough time has transpired for actual Christlike...YES, Christlike love to occur. A marriage will not succeed without GOD in it. What you feel is from your "raw" emotions. Do not go "exclusively" on emotion and physical appearance. You will be deeply DISAPPOINTED. Re-assess everything on a different plane. Counsel with a church Pastor and see if you both can be a married couple.

The Lord is close to the broken hearted and is a healer of depression. I pray that the Lord fulfils your life because when he does, you will be fulfilled, have enough running over and space in your life for a healthy relastionship. The blessings of the Lord makes 'rich' and adds no 'sorrow'. When you find the person you should be with, it would be 'natural' and there would be no drama or depression or anxiety with it. Look to the Lord, He will give you what you need and the right person at the right time. You don't need to try to do the Lord's work for Him.

I wanted to add something for you to think about.

***Did you ever ask him if he has another girl that he is serious about, or dating?

***I find it hard to believe that he is shy, as look at his line of work, and the fact that he has no trouble talking to you when your together at his work.

***Just remember that in his line of work, he meets a lot of women. I am not sure what the statistics would be for divorce, and for a personal trainer. It would take a very strong man to turn some of the ladies down. Especially if you both were having dificulties with your relationship. ***I put personal trainers in the same category as bartenders. As part of their job is to be personable to the people they are working for. Some of it can be intentionally flirting. (If he uses his job to get women.) Some of it could be just being personable. As being personable gets clients, and this is part of the job. No clients, no money!

***Could it be that he is just being personable, and it is being mistook by you that he likes you. I am not saying that any of
this is going on, I am just giving you something to ponder.

***Is he a christian? Are you a christian?

***I am not sure how you happened to fall head over hills. A lot of what you described is innocent flirtation. If you come at him with "I want to be with you very soon, and life's too short to put this off", you'll probably scare him away. As he is defintely not at the same place that you are!!!

***Sometimes jumping into things before you actually get to know him, could end up
doing more harm than good. Especially if you have thrown your heart into it, and he is just having a good time, or is only wanting to keep things light, and just date. I have a hard time believing that he is at the same place as you, or he would have asked you out by now.

***It is however puzzling that he continues making a point to come over and talk to you at the gym. Why not just come out and ask him. (Not to go out.) Do you like me for more than a friend?

***Women to women I would like to give you one piece of advice. Maybe you'll listen now, or maybe it will take a few HARD KNOCKS with relationships to listen; but here goes... When you meet someone approach it slowly, and cautiously when it comes to letting your heart go. When you first start to date you need to find out who he is. Does he fit with what you need, want, and are looking for. As you find out more about him, and you like what you see; then give alittle more of your heart to him. You keep doing this until all the puzzle pieces fit, and then you get married. ***The way you are going about this is a TRAIN WRECK waiting to happen!

Kweig,

Thanks for all the prayers and advice. (To everyone else, too, who has been praying for me). You are right, of course. But, if I fell for this guy, he actually made it happen. And, I did not set up the appropriate boundaries with him because I wanted it to happen. I welcomed it. I think he developed a crush on me, and when I realized it, I totally shut down communicating with him in an open fashion. I changed to put on the breaks, but I kept working out with him. Just a couple of things he did. He approached me like a romantic date would do, standing face to face with me, and took each one of my hands in his, looked me in the eyes romantically, and then twirled me around and said, "You'd be great to dance with because you fit under my arm." A few weeks later, he and I were working out Friday evening, and he said to me, "I lift you up when you're down, and you lift me up when I'm down. We lift each other up. You know, today I was feeling so terrible training people all day and feeling miserable. But, you just came in and we started talking, and now I'm happy. And, it's all because of you."

Needless to say, when a personal trainer says things like that to a woman, that's not just flirting, that's heavy duty stuff. Then, he started calling me by pet names, like Kimberley, Kimmy, Miss Kim, and all that kind of stuff that is more personal in nature. He would be wherever I was at the gym, and it was too, too much attention. So, now tell me if it was all in my imigination. I was very late putting a stop to it, but I gained my self respect. Better late than never. But, I think he's just very young and who knows what kind of problems he has relating to women. But, he did wrong by me, and I ended it as a Christian woman would. I know he respects me, and I am getting better and better about this as each day goes by, and I covet your prayers, all of you.

I am asking that the Lord teach me through this agonizing experience; I don't want to have gone through this in vain, for nothing. I have to learn from it. And, I most assuredly have grown from it.

Dear Heavenly Father, Please be with IBelieveinMiracles that she will find answers through prayer and your word. Please put the words in her mouth when she is talking to this your gentleman. May she do as you would have her do. Guide her actions that they may be pleasing to you and may she find happines and companionship with this new gentlemen in her life. For this we pray in Jesus anme. AMEN

You have done far better than most women would have handled it and I commend you for using wisdom even though you were attracted to him. I saw somethiong on TV with 2 professional trainers (a "talk" show) and they said they have more than they can ask for as far as "getting laid" because all the married women are soooo lonely in their marriage that they are the one's hitting on the male trainers. They said some of the "married" women don't want to break it off and things turn ugly at that point. CONGRATULATIOS for seeing through the head games. GOD bless and Father, in Jesus name, send this young lady a companion that will love her as much if not more than she loves him and let Christ be their #1 focus. Amen and Amen!

christian737,

No, I haven't seen that specific talk show. I am sure that when I signed up for this training, I was serious and am still so. I just got distracted. I am sure I was not showing any lonliness or desperation at all. Regardless, I am proud of the way I handled this and turned a bad emotional and professional situation into a one that was resolved without either party getting angry at the other. That is because I have Jesus in me, and I followed the leading of the Lord.

I still see him (the trainer) at the gym, and I still have some feelings to get over. But, that is my gym and I'm looking better and better and feeling better and better about myself. I have found myself again, and I have learned from my weaknesses and the weakenesses of him. After all, with God, all things are possible!!!!!