First of all I would like to thank you for taking your time to read this. God bless your heart. I am now at a loss for I just discovered that my fiance has been lying to me all this time. He has lied about his financial situation and even his family do not know that he is still working as a cook and not a manager as he says he is. He says he is ashamed of himself thats why he lies. I feel very hurt for all the lies that he told me but I still love him but a lot of people tell me that liars just keep lying and people like that dont change and I will only be hurt in the end. I feel like I am losing all my trust and love in him and I dont know if I should give him another chance or just leave him. I pray that God will help him be a better person and that God will show me the right path I should take.

Hope you get a chance to read this. I will pray for you and your fiance. First of all my husband and I have been married for a little over 2 years now. When we were engaged there were lies. We got over them. There are reasons behind lies, even though there is no excuse for them. From what it sounds like, your fiance is insecure about himself, as so was mine in different ways. I think it takes someone to come into their lives and help them with the help of God. Love is pateint and kind. I think if you show him that you love him regardless of finances that he will be more open, and feel more ambition rather then shame. It sounds like he is afraid of people judging him, and being disapointed in him. I started paying $3000.00 of my husbands debt, before we were married. I didn't hold his financial problems against him. I helped him, loved him, guided him, and above all prayed for him. He is now debt free, working, and going to college. I thank the Lord for that, because with the love that God put in my heart for this man, I can't imagine where he would be now if I held finances and white lies against him in the past. I am also thankful that my husband helped me through my own flaws. I pray that you forgive him, and trust God. There is faith, hope and love, and love is the greatest of the three. God will speak to heart on what you should do. Just trust him.

May God give you wisdom and peace of mind in this time of trouble. It sounds like your fiance is in secure and a little in mature in handling his problems. this almost always happens in couples that are about to marry. there is always something that needs to be worked out before you say I do. And this is what you need to work out. He needs to know that you love him weather he's the cook or the manager. He probably thinks that everyone expects more of him so he's trying to please everyone. And since He can't right now he lies. So if this is your true love you need to let him know that your there for him and you support him while he tries to get the managers position. Love is about being there when the going gets tough. He needs love and understanding. He needs to be motivated and told that he will get that other position soon. Let him know that he is a go getter. Look for God that he will guide you both. Behind every successful man there is a smart woman guiding him. Let Go and Let God talk to you. God Bless you.

thank you so much for your words of encouragement. you dont know how much this means to me.. its nice to know that there are people like you out there who cares and is willing to give some of their time to help someone out even in little ways..thank you very much and may God bless you.