Alicia,Please know your mother has a disease. Might sound scary, but look at it as a dis-ease. Dis Ease. Her problems with drinking have nothing to do you. Again, you are not the reason she drinks. She has a problem and it would be even more unfortunate if you somehow view her actions, or lack of them, as something to do with you. Your mother is dependent on a substance. She needs professional help, but someone her age needs to want the help. You can join a support group of others like yourself, who have relatives with alcohol problems. I would recommend talking with your guidance counselors at school. Be honest and share everything. They will be able to help and you can trust them.
I pray the Lord watches over you and your sister and guides your mother back to to the light. God bless you.*

Wow, I feel your pain, and I know how hard it is to understand why your mother's thought's and actions. My brother is an alcoholic and it is so difficult to help him, and to understand him. I have been embarrassed many times because of things my brother has done to my family, and around friends of mine, but I realized that it is a real "Problem" that he has, and he has to want to help himself. He is in prison right now, because of other problems, but basically I want to you to know that, your mother is not aware of the pain she is causing, or what she is doing, because she needs help. I am so sorry that you and your sisters have to be put in the middle of your mother's problems. Have you tried writing her a letter, and giving it to her, before she is under the influence? It's hard to understand the things people do, especially family members, but things happen like this, and you have to do what is best for yourself. I will be praying for you, and know that you did nothing wrong, and you have not caused her drinking habit, or anything else. You seem like a great person with a good heart. Be strong, and follow your dreams. Do not loose hope. I pray your mother is blessed with healing from her habits, love, respect, and understanding today, and forever- may your family be reunited and put back together. I send you my blessings.


-Jess

hello alicia i went through a situation very similar to this, my mom had a boyfriend who was an abusive alcholic and he liked to put his hands on me, i started to get sick of it and i was very cold to both of them , i did not understand why my mom would allow him to treat me that way. Sometimes are parents dont grow up when they are supose to, they act like children when they should act like parents. my mom was always choosing her boyfriends over me. one day she will wake up and see what really matters and when she dose she will feel like crap for treating you this way, and if she dose not you dont need her, find a person who is nice to you and look up to her like a mother figure.
everything will be ok, just ask god to protect you and change your mothers heart because he is the only 1 who can.
tonyia

You are in my prayers. Don't let this situation keep you from praying for your mother. She needs for God to set her free from all these addictions. You keep the faith. I pray you have a local chruch for support. God Bless you. ODIE

I am new here... and I saw this and almost started crying! I'm SO sorry you and your sister had to go through that! I'm 13 years old and although I'm young, I know some of what you are going through... My mom does not drink but, she is severly depressed. I got kicked out of my house too with the rest of my sisters. I felt so alone and frusterated and wondered why she was doing this to herself and to me. But, God has a brilliant plan for me... and I know he has an even more wonderfull plan for you and your sister! Be strong and know that God is with you every step you take! I hope that I have helped in even the littlest bit by saying this to you. I will be praying for you and your family! God bless!
- Larissa

hi alisha,
I am so sorry to hear about the struggles you are going through. I'm not sure if this will help you but I work with addicts in recovery and from my experience I want you to first try and understand that this is a disease. It may seem as if your mom is choosing to drink, but in reality if she is having health issues her body is probably making her drink so she doesn't get sicker. Odd I know but that is how it works. Once someone starts drinking it become their life in some ways(i am only refering to addicts) It begins to control every aspect of their lives and they make decisions that most of us cannot understand. It is completely wrong how she is treating you and the rest of your family and I pray that one day she realizes that she needs to go to rehab, and become sober so she can start her life over with all the people she loves in it. I will pray that your mother and the rest of your family. be blessed

Dealing with someone who has an addiction can be just as hard as the addition itself. I pray that the Lord gives you peace and clarity so you can understand that it is indeed a disease and she needs the kind of help that surpasses doctors. She needs our prayers as do you. I pray that you and your sister will find the support system that you need and that your mother can fight this addiction and realize the two blessings she has right before her.