I wanted to add something for you to think about.

***Did you ever ask him if he has another girl that he is serious about, or dating?

***I find it hard to believe that he is shy, as look at his line of work, and the fact that he has no trouble talking to you when your together at his work.

***Just remember that in his line of work, he meets a lot of women. I am not sure what the statistics would be for divorce, and for a personal trainer. It would take a very strong man to turn some of the ladies down. Especially if you both were having dificulties with your relationship. ***I put personal trainers in the same category as bartenders. As part of their job is to be personable to the people they are working for. Some of it can be intentionally flirting. (If he uses his job to get women.) Some of it could be just being personable. As being personable gets clients, and this is part of the job. No clients, no money!

***Could it be that he is just being personable, and it is being mistook by you that he likes you. I am not saying that any of
this is going on, I am just giving you something to ponder.

***Is he a christian? Are you a christian?

***I am not sure how you happened to fall head over hills. A lot of what you described is innocent flirtation. If you come at him with "I want to be with you very soon, and life's too short to put this off", you'll probably scare him away. As he is defintely not at the same place that you are!!!

***Sometimes jumping into things before you actually get to know him, could end up
doing more harm than good. Especially if you have thrown your heart into it, and he is just having a good time, or is only wanting to keep things light, and just date. I have a hard time believing that he is at the same place as you, or he would have asked you out by now.

***It is however puzzling that he continues making a point to come over and talk to you at the gym. Why not just come out and ask him. (Not to go out.) Do you like me for more than a friend?

***Women to women I would like to give you one piece of advice. Maybe you'll listen now, or maybe it will take a few HARD KNOCKS with relationships to listen; but here goes... When you meet someone approach it slowly, and cautiously when it comes to letting your heart go. When you first start to date you need to find out who he is. Does he fit with what you need, want, and are looking for. As you find out more about him, and you like what you see; then give alittle more of your heart to him. You keep doing this until all the puzzle pieces fit, and then you get married. ***The way you are going about this is a TRAIN WRECK waiting to happen!