I wanted to bring a different view to Surak, and his situation. Please just ponder what I am going to say to you, and do not immediately say no I will not consider it. Please consider the following: As a women I would not even consider stepping into a relationship with a man who wanted me to try to fill a previous, and deceased wife's shoe. Also, I do not think it would be fair to anyone to be put into the position of trying to do this. Please consider that your love that you had for her cannot be replaced by anyone. If I were in your shoe's I think that I would continue working on myself to get over her death, and until you are completely over her, I would not attept to date. As this will only end in heart ache, as no one wants to be over shadowed by another person. Hopefully you will put some thought into what I've said!