Dear Tara Ann, SINCE you have made a vow, i would encourage you to give your greatest effort in trying to keep it. First and foremost by asking God to help you.

And regarding the loophole, God created a woman to be loved most intimately by her husband only (and vice versa). And in ancient biblical Israel if a man seduces a virgin and takes her sexually, he was forced to marry her...

I think you need to consider this matter prayerfully and hear God's call clearly. I think the best thing to do at the moment is to give this relationship over to God, and turn your boyfriend over to Him. We must be careful not to idolize our loved ones, because it will destroy them. We must come to terms with the fact that we could loose our loved ones anytime (either to death, to adultery, or by abandonement, etc), because God CAN allow this. I think the first step is letting go of your boyfriend. Even i let go of my husband (or i did to the best of my knowledge), and this enables me to love him more truly, because then i love him because i love him and not for any other reason.

And as a side comment, it is best not to make promises to God which you are not sure you can keep 100%. If you want to try and do something to obey, just try and do it (of course with prayer and through God's grace), and if you are commited, commit it to yourself, but i personally find it not good to make promises unless i know 100% i can keep it.

hopefully this came out ok and it gives some ideas.... i am writing in a hurry.

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