Praise the Lord for this letter from your husband! I pray that the Lord leads you in what to say, and do! I guess if it were me, I would say that I missed him to, but did not want to go back to living the way that you were, as it was too painful. I would ask him what he is willing to change to make this work, and what he's not willing to change! Tell him that you want him to be honest, and to take this seriously, as if he doesn't you guys won't make it! You both need to be honest in the way of, putting it all out there, even if it means hurting the other, in order to work it out.

Also, I agree with Alex about him saying that you both need to be apart for awhile, at least until you talk about the problems, and come to some sort of an agreement as to how you are going to act, and react to things! You both need to really miss each other, and miss each other so much that you both are open to doing what you need to do to make this marriage work! There needs to be some ground rules layed so that you don't fall back into the same old traps again!!! Instead of being depressed that you are apart for awhile, why don't you be glad that you both are finally going to get this on track!!!

As far as the ex-girlfriend being at his mother's home. I do not think that was right of his mother to do this, and it is puzzling that she's now telling her son to come back to you? I don't get this? Also, I just want to say this about Alex, and his ex-girlfriend. I do not think he even wants her, as if he did, I think that he would not be writing to you! Consider if this was just unnecessary jealousy on your part? You need to address this, or it will resurface not just with the ex-girlfriend, but with other girls! Take this time apart to realize that there must be something between you, and Alex, or he would've ended all contact!

Finally, look at yourself to see why you are jealous? Is it low self esteem etc. You need to fix this, or it will destroy any love that he has for you!!! When I got older I learned that it didn't really matter how pretty another girl was that I could hold my own. Not because I am just this knock-out, but because as one gets older, and wiser they realize that just being pretty does not cut it. The character is so much more important! If a guy takes off with a prettier women, because she is prettier: Then why would you want him anyway? He is making stupid decisions, and does not have a clue what it means to truly love, and be happy anyway!!!

I pray that you just consider the things that i've said to you. See if you think it would help you both! I don't know your situation well, and this is just something to think about!!! I pray that you listen to the Lord, and let him guide you!!!