Dear Sandra, I thank you for your response to my post. It is helpful to read that others are in agreement with what I am saying. As in the past my husband would absolutely refuse to take responsibility for anything, and he would force me to keep quiet by getting angry if I said anything about it. (He called it fighting, if I tried to talk about anything he did wrong!)

Recently he has began to accept responsibility, and he has done so during our nightly prayers to God. He asks God to help me to forgive him of this, or that! But, he still has a problem with me bringing up any of the things that he did wrong. I do not want to hold anything against him, and I always try to reassure him that I am only talking about it to make sure that he will not do it again, and I am trying to fully heal from it.

Anyway, I am just concerned that he is just going to keep disregarding my feelings, and being mean, and He will expect me to never talk about it. (Just let him do it!) I do see some changes, but we are not living together, which makes it easy to avoid doing things wrong! He is a weak person inside. He can not handle much! He has a lot of chips on his shoulder's. He uses these to get his way (or at least I believe that he does.) I have wondered in the past about how much of what he does, is done out of ignorance, and how much is done deliberately just to ensure he gets his way!!! If he is doing it deliberately, I think that this is one of the meanest things that you can do to someone!!! I mean when a person does the following: They deliberately, and intentionally continue doing what they are doing out of wanting to get their way, and with the knowlege that they are beating someone up in the process! Also forcing someone to be silent about it, from fear that they may leave, or could possibly leave!!! I don't know how someone can take advantage of someone, knowing that this person loves them unconditionally, and is only trying to get the other person to do right!!!

Who knows: Maybe this is why he used to get mad... because I was making him feel guilty, and this is something that he didn't want to feel for whatever reason!!! Keep praying for us. You are a great Sister in the Lord, and bless you for your comments, and your ear for hearing what I have to say!!!