Originally Posted by Sandra Mead

Boy do I understand the one sided issues from a partner that you described. I was married to an Assemblies of God Minister's Baby boy. As an adult I couldn't understand his selfishness in all things. Everything was about him. The Lord opened my eyes to the reasons. Don never wanted for anything as a child. The lord blessed his family in all matters through his father's ministry. The church provided all his needs from shelter, food, clothing, entertainment,ect. His money was for anything he wanted to blow it on. In our marriage he continued to do this. I found out that grocery and rent checks were bouncing because he bought a boat and motorcycle and had them hid at his friends house. He even went so far as to tell his children that it was the grocery stores fault he couldn't provide for them because they wanted to much money and he needed it for gas to go on a fishing trip with his friends. This is so deep in some men that It will indeed take and act of God to cleanse them. Once our minister asked him if he was ready to turn his life over to God for the money problems we were having and he said, I guess I don't have a choice, and walked out of the room. (He was expecting our pastor to hand him a check to solve our problems.) Even then he didn't understand that he had been riding on his father's coat tail for all those years and it was time to make his own decisions to follow God. Oh well, I said all this to let you know I understand the frustration, but on the other hand I understand the healing in his spirit that can only come from God. I pray in the name of Jesus that you call things as they are and let him know that his needs are not above the will of God, that he be a true and faithfull husband in the valleys and on the mountain top. Love you in the lord and praise God he is training you up in the way you should go. To God be the Glory and let everyone proclaim ALL IS WELL. Amen.